Some workplace advice for people with depression

Many friends are depressed because of the workplace, or they may become depressed because of work when they return to work after recovery. How patients with depression can successfully return to the workplace is also a question that is often discussed by depressed friends.

After depression improves and stabilizes, reentering the workplace also has a positive effect on the recovery of depression. On the one hand, working can indeed give us a certain amount of income and enable us to support ourselves. ； On the other hand, returning to society, living a regular life, and obtaining social support can also help people with depression improve their emotional intelligence, strengthen their hearts, and gradually put their lives on the right track.

Of course, how to return to the workplace smoothly, how to choose a career that suits you, let the work content and work environment nourish you more, slowly drive yourself to grow, and try to avoid relapse caused by returning to the workplace.； Here I have collected some information to share with you.

Choosing the right boss is important

First of all, the outlook of leaders in the workplace is very important. Whether the leader is kind and objective will directly affect the overall outlook of the company and the interpersonal relationships between colleagues. Only by following good leadership can you go further. Just like when a boss chooses employees, he must first choose good characters and then consider abilities. On the other hand, it is still very important for depressed people to choose a boss with a kind and sensitive personality.

Choose the right job to make yourself more adaptable and passionate

Just like choosing a partner, you need to make more choices in this matter. Only by choosing more will you have experience and know what is suitable for you. From the overall personality of people with depression, the following jobs may be more suitable for your reference.

1. The work of interacting with people. A salesperson in a shopping mall or a faculty member in a training institution. This type of work enables continuous interaction through communication with the outside world and overcomes the social fear of staying behind closed doors. On the other hand, through communication with the outside world, you can relieve the depression and loneliness in your heart, increase your sense of pleasure and satisfaction, and effectively avoid delusional behaviors when you are alone.

2. Work to cultivate one’s moral character. People with depression often need to work in a less stressful environment. For example, they can choose flower arranging, gardening, tea ceremonies, yoga and other tasks that soothe the body and mind, which not only add interest to life, but also cultivate the body and mind and cure diseases. There is a saying that goes like this: The closer we are to music, chess, calligraphy and painting, the further away we are from depression. Try to choose a job that is closer to aesthetics.

3. Work that makes you happy. Illness arises from the heart. For patients with depression, they should try to choose a job they like. If going to work feels like visiting a grave, how can you be happy? Work itself is a matter of consumption, and double consumption is definitely unbearable. Try to choose what you like, and it will be a bit of a flow.

4. Work to enhance self-confidence. Confidence is a powerful weapon in the treatment of depression. When it comes to self-confidence, it means that you are good at this job and you have a sense of accomplishment. Nowadays, it is popular to take a psychological test before joining a job to understand some of your characteristics. Through big data analysis, we can tell you which career is most suitable for you. There is psychological support behind this, making it easier for you to understand what you are good at. This can continuously enhance self-confidence at work, regain confidence in life, and rekindle the passion for life.

5. Work that involves emotional experience. Depression is a typical psychological disease (a physical disease to a certain extent). Therefore, the treatment of depression must start from the psychological perspective, whether it is family, friendship or love. They can experience emotional care in the process of work, for example, opening a pet shop. Emotional communication with animals is also very helpful for patients with depression.

From simple to difficult, return to work smoothly

Start with things you are familiar with and regain your confidence step by step. Don't take up an important position, which is more likely to lead to recurrence.

Don't challenge things you haven't done before. Patients with depression are usually very sensitive. We can't bear the feeling of incompetence and will be extremely insecure. Lack of security can lead to fear. Fear is the prelude to anxiety and depression.

Slow down, slow down the pace, lower your expectations, and return to work smoothly step by step.

Be aware of subconscious tendencies to please and avoid promising leaders too much

Because of lack of love or competition in the workplace, humans as subordinates like to please their leaders. You may say, I failed to please the leader?

In fact, superficial flattery is easy to detect, but subconscious flattery is difficult to detect. For example, if you promise your leader a lot of goals to achieve and are eager to prove yourself, in fact, this is a kind of flattery. This should be what many people do.

Be aware of your inner tendencies to please and set your own boundaries. Be brave enough to say no to things that exceed your boundaries when asked by your boss or colleagues. Some people are afraid of arguing with colleagues or leaders, so they take on more work intensity and pressure themselves. Learn to be aware of the reasons behind this mentality. What kind of lack and insecurity, or what kind of education, make you dare not fight or snatch, or say no. As a result, I fall back into the days when I was tired mentally and physically.

We must learn not to just accept competition and oppression of varying degrees in the workplace, but learn to be aware of it and respond intelligently. Escape is useless and is not conducive to growth.

Learn to detect the thoughts behind anxiety

When anxiety occurs in the workplace, learn to be aware of it, understand the reasons behind the anxiety, and only by removing the reasons behind it can you truly overcome the anxiety.

1. It is true that the work is not saturated, but your work efficiency is high. Usually the anxiety in this situation won't be severe and you may just be bored. At this time, you can actually find some side jobs, or find ways to learn and improve yourself.

2. You feel that you are not in a good state recently and you are not as energetic as before. If you feel anxious in this situation, it is recommended that you learn to relax and rest.

In fact, all of us do not work energetically every day, nor are we working 100%. Many people who can work for a long time usually spend part of their time fishing, that is, doing their own things, or having nothing to do.

The workplace is not about sudden outbursts, but about steady persistence, because you will make your boss feel that your work efficiency and performance are controllable, and then he will dare to arrange things for you with confidence. Instead, you will explode for a while and be unable to do anything for a while. For the leader, it is completely uncontrollable.

3. Your work is temporarily in trouble, and there are no external resources to help you solve it. Problems and dilemmas at work can actually be seen everywhere. This is the norm. This unsolvable state is indeed painful. Sometimes we can't solve it no matter how hard we try, and we need support from the company or other external resources. This requires patience. If you really can't solve it, you can let it go first and try your best to solve it. When there is no way to solve it, the leader will actually know it. There is no need to spare yourself.

4. The work is temporarily in trouble, but it’s not that it can’t be solved, it’s that you are unwilling to solve it.

A friend of Yu said that he was very anxious and worried about losing his job. I asked him what was going on, and he said he couldn't understand what others were saying and felt very anxious. My answer to him was that it's actually easy to solve. Just admit that you didn't understand it and confirm with them a few times.

You Yuyou works in the Education Division. In addition to managing products and R&D, he is also responsible for product marketing, which means moving from back-end R&D to front-end market. At that time, I felt that I was undervalued in the market, and I was unwilling to do it, but it was not that I had no way to solve it.

At this time, our anxiety is not that the problem cannot be solved, but because we can’t let go of face and don’t want to solve it. At this point, you need to evaluate whether saving face is important? Or is it more important to improve your abilities and do things better? This is an example of cost and benefit comparison. We should always choose something with less cost, right?

Focus on the matter itself, not on leadership or external recognition.

The above is some advice on returning to the workplace. I also invite you to share your experience of returning to work smoothly.

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