A must for women: What do men think about when they say "love"?

　　"A lot depends on how he says it, where he says it, and most importantly, when he says it," says Jenny Lane Budd, co-editor of The Definitive Dictionary of Man/Woman. "

　　Jean Vian, a psychologist in Washington state, said: "Men are not born with the exact ability to express their emotions, but as women age, they express different emotions more easily than men. ""Sometimes we just blurt out something without thinking it through," 26-year-old Bolindan said frankly. So, you might change your mind the next day. I've done that and it's like you have a strong sexual urge, a passion. "

　　Below are four fragments of life in which "I love you" is often used, from which we can see what exactly he wants to express.

　　""I love you" may mean "something went wrong".

　　Men sometimes try to save a relationship from bankruptcy by saying "I love you." If you are having a serious argument, then he will try to save the day by saying that he loves you. Or maybe he wants to break up with you before telling you that he loves you. "Most men don't want to hurt you, so he thinks: I'm going to put a goose feather quilt under her so she doesn't just fall to the floor," Wei An said. "Or he feels it is a sin to abandon you, so he says this like he is throwing a life raft to you. In the following situation, "I love you" means "Oh my God!""

　　1. He sounds desperate

　　If he sounds afraid of losing you, or as if he's trying to convince you to give him another chance, chances are you're hearing more than just an expression of love. You can usually get the exact sense of panic in his voice that he may love you, but something is wrong.

　　2. He cheated on you

　　Just because he calls you to express his true feelings doesn't mean he has changed his mind. However, if he has been gone for three weeks and suddenly calls you drunk at 5 a.m. and says "I love you" four times in a row, that should be a sign that he is lying.

　　3.You guys keep quarreling.

　　When some men get tired of endless arguments, they end them with "I Love You."

　　4. He’s hurting you

　　A man who likes to curse is likely to make up for his roughness by telling you they love you after they hit you. Wei An suggested: "Ask yourself, do his words and actions match his actions?"

　　5. He is a broken ship drifting into your harbor

　　"I have a live-in boyfriend who often tells me he loves me, but what he really means is I need you," said Liz, 33, of Chicago. That is, I need you to pay my bills, clean my room, and look after me when I get drunk. He never treated me like a lover. "Liz is now married to a man she doesn't have to play mom to. She said: "I am so happy that I have found a man who has proven to me that love is not just a word - it is everything you do. "

　　So, what you should do:

　　You know in your heart what you should do: get out of the situation. "There is a huge difference between the three beautiful words "I Love You" and the painful entanglement between two people. Bud suggested: "When there are problems in the relationship between two people, facing reality is more important than verbal communication. "So when his declaration of love doesn't come from the heart, "Love" is just a four-letter word.