The unknown secrets of male sex

　　1. Men like to rely on visual stimulation to get into a state of mind。

　　Generally speaking, men are more susceptible to visual stimulation and women are more susceptible to auditory stimulation. that's why boy The reason why men like to watch pornographic images for stimulation, while girls like to read romantic novels, means that the main source of men’s sexual impulses is your appearance, which also explains why men always like to stare at you. female body and clothing. So, you should wear some sexy lingerie occasionally. If you are used to having sex with the lights off, try changing it up by turning on soft lights or lighting some candles in the room. Because your husband will be aroused by the visual effect, let his eyes "feast" on your body. This may just be the simplest, most passionate act you can do.

　　2． A man's erection does not always require intercourse。

　　An erection is caused by congestion of the penis, which may be stimulated by sexual impulse, but may also be caused by holding back urine or underwear that is too tight. In addition, you will also have an erection when you wake up in the morning. If you think that your husband's erection means that he has entered a "sexual state", it will only cause problems in your relationship. If you're not sure, ask him what he wants. For example, when he wakes up in the morning and hugs you, ask him if he wants to have sex? Or do we just want to hug each other? This will make him feel comfortable making his choice and grateful for your care.

　　3. Men are afraid of rejection。

　　When your husband sends sexual signals to you, he is not just expressing a sexual request, he is subconsciously saying: "You must accept me. ”If you say: “No! no! ”, "I'm too tired" and the like, he will feel that his self-esteem has been hurt. At this time, men may lack their usual tolerance and suddenly feel dissatisfied. If you frequently refuse his sexual advances, he may stop engaging in courtship and you may have emotional problems. Worse still, he may seek sex from others to gain a sense of "acceptance."

　　Don't completely reject your husband's advances. It doesn't mean that you have to obey him, but you should understand that this is a man's vulnerability. You can say: "I love you very much, but I am too tired from work today. Can I do it tomorrow morning?" ”Or say: "I'm not interested at all right now, let's just hug and wait and see how I feel, okay?" ”In short, you haven't "entered the state" yet. You can explain to him in tactful language that he will feel better. It is inappropriate to flatly refuse or use too many blaming words.

　　4. Men like women to be more proactive。

　　The wife should occasionally act as a "sexual attacker", because men like women to show their interest in sex. They often show great enthusiasm and curiosity about women's "sexual interest". If the woman mobilizes the man's sexual awareness, unexpected results will often be achieved. In addition, if a man always takes the active role in sex life, he may feel that it is the same and lacks new ideas, and he will always run the risk of being rejected. He'd like you to be in his position, so you'll understand how important it is for his sexual signals to be accepted.

　　5. Men like women who have a sense of humor.

　　Laughing is a way for men to relax their mental tension. Men often feel the pressure of responsibilities and they need to relax by laughing. So, when your husband tries to be humorous and you refuse to participate, he will feel that you lack understanding of him and may even feel that you are judging his behavior and performance. If a woman learns to laugh with her husband in and out of bed, or often expresses some humorous words and actions herself, life will be more fun and his "sexual" interest will be doubled.

　　6. Men generally don't like to talk much during sex.

　　Studies have shown that men generally do not like to talk to their wives during sex. When you say: "Honey, I like the feeling of closeness," what you hear may be a few short and unclear words. If you always talk about trivial matters in life or work during sex, the man may express some impatience, and at this time, you may feel left out. In fact, he was too involved in the behavioral center of the right hemisphere of the brain and the language function could not function. If you ask him how he feels about having sex, he may prefer to remain silent because talking may distract from his passion. Of course, this doesn't mean you can't talk, but don't be disappointed if he doesn't say a word.