How to relieve psychological stress and anxiety

Most of the stress and anxiety that occur daily do not need to be overly stressful, and there is no need to rush to find medicine. Spend 10 to 30 minutes adjusting the state, and most of them can be quickly relieved. If it continues to affect normal life, just seek professional intervention. There is no need to scare yourself into labeling your emotions as a "disease".

I met a girl who works on the Internet a while ago. She worked hard for a week on the 618 big promotion plan. Before the weekly meeting in the morning, her heart skipped a beat while staring at more than a dozen to-do messages. She even drank her favorite three-point sugar iced American style to the point of bitterness. She shed tears while sitting at her workstation. She felt that she must be depressed. I asked her to turn on her computer first and not think about the plan. She went downstairs and walked around the park for 20 minutes. As she walked, she counted how many hollyhocks were blooming on the roadside. Don't tell me, the first thing she said when she came back and entered was, "When the wind blew, I suddenly remembered that the mango pancake I bought last week was in the company's refrigerator and I haven't eaten it yet." She sat down and drank half a cup of warm water. Her thoughts became much smoother. Before noon, she completed the framework of the plan that had been stuck for three days. In fact, there is nothing magical about it. Cortisol in the body will soar when people are anxious. Mild exercise such as slow walking can just promote the secretion of endorphins and bring down the excessive stress hormone levels. It is much more efficient than sitting at the work station and struggling.

Nowadays, the opinions on the Internet about relieving anxiety are quite polarized. Some people say that to be anxious, you have to lie down completely and do nothing. Others say that anxiety is all about free time. If you fill up your time, you will not think about it. Both opinions are actually a bit one-sided. If you have been working continuously for more than half a month and your brain can no longer move, and you still force yourself to learn skills and do side jobs to fill the time, you will only break the tight strings. ； But if you have been too idle because you have no goals for a long time, and you become more and more anxious when you lie at home and watch short videos every day, and insist on "lying down", you will be trapped in a self-denial mood and cannot get out.

Many people also say that when they are anxious, they can't help but think about random things. The more they think about it, the more they can't sleep, and the more they think about it, the more annoying they become. In fact, anxious thoughts are like small mosquitoes flying towards your face in summer. The more you chase them, the more they will circle around you. If you want to do something, just do it. If it flies around twice and feels bored, it will leave on its own. I used to have a friend who was preparing for the civil service exam. After entering the interview, he was always worried that he would be stuck on the exam and would not be able to answer the questions. The more he thought about it, the more he lost sleep. Later, he simply wrote down all his worries on a piece of A4 paper, folded it into small squares and stuffed it into the bottom of the drawer. He told himself, "It's useless to think about it now. I'll take it out the day before the interview." Instead, he was able to calm down and practice his thoughts on answering questions. In the end, his interview score was three points higher than that of the written test. This little method is actually a commonly used "emotional packaging" technique in psychology. To put it bluntly, it means to find a fixed "storage place" for the chaotic anxiety and don't let it occupy your current attention.

Of course, I have to mention that if you can't sleep well or eat well for more than two weeks in a row, have no interest in the things you particularly liked before, and even find it difficult to go to work or go to school, don't force yourself to adjust. Go to a psychologist in a regular hospital or a registered psychological counselor. This is no different from going to the doctor for a cold or fever. There is no need to feel embarrassed at all.