Positive emotions and good stress management 800 words after reading

Positive emotions are by no means the "mental victory method" ridiculed on the Internet, but the most cost-effective "physiological + cognitive cushion" for ordinary people when managing stress. Its role is far more than regulating mood, and it can actually reduce the negative impact of stress on life from three dimensions: expanding cognitive bandwidth, improving decision-making quality, and repairing long-term physiological damage.

I used to work in Internet operations, and it was normal to stay up for a week in a row when rushing to launch a major promotion. The stress management logic I believed in before was "problem first": when stress comes, find the root cause first, and solve the problem and the stress will naturally disappear. I even think that talking about "adjusting emotions" is a pretentious way to avoid problems. This is also the consensus of many practical people. After all, the saying "crying is useless, solving problems is useful" has been spread in the workplace for more than ten years. Until the last Q3 promotion review, I was holding on to the conversion data that was full of loopholes. I was about to quarrel with the product department by slamming the table. The "10-second positive anchoring method" mentioned in the book suddenly flashed in my mind, and I touched the orange gummies in my pocket (I I have been taking two pills lately (originally to prevent hypoglycemia). The moment I opened it and ate it, I suddenly remembered the way my orange cat squatted on the shoe rack when I went out in the morning and put his head on my shoes. The air that was blocked in my chest suddenly relaxed half a minute. What was already on the lips was "the demands you raised are not considered to be implemented at all", but the way out became "let's first list the points where we are stuck, and first pick the solutions that can be aligned today." That day's meeting ended 40 minutes earlier than expected. When I got home in the evening, I measured my resting heart rate. It was nearly 15 beats/min lower than the previous meeting after the quarrel. You must know that high heart rate caused by high cortisol under long-term stress is the cause of many chronic diseases.

Of course, I don’t think positive emotions are omnipotent. Many scholars who are critical of positive psychology are right: if you are faced with an urgent task that must be solved immediately, such as a plan that is due in half an hour, then it is better to type words quickly if you are too optimistic; if the source of stress is continuous workplace PUA and unreasonable workload, just adjusting your emotions is tantamount to drinking poison to quench your thirst. The first priority is always to change the environment to stop the loss. The role of positive emotions is never to solve problems for you, but to put a soft cushion under your feet when you are carrying the pressure and move forward, so that it will not hurt too much when you fall, and you can squat down and rest for two minutes when you are tired from walking.

Now I don’t have any sense of ritual like “recording three happy things every day”. Being too deliberate will turn into a new pressure. I just carry two candies with me and save a few silly photos of cats in the photo album of my mobile phone. When I encounter a traffic jam or change the plan until I collapse, I will take it out and look at it for two seconds, eat a candy, and then I will recover. To be honest, I used to think that stress management required an "iron wall", but now I understand that with a little soft positive emotion to support you, you don't have to bear the pressure and fight hard, but you can go further. (Full text 798 words)