What are the manifestations of the relationship between parenting and children’s health?

The impact of parenting behavior on children's health covers all dimensions of physiology, psychology, and social adaptation. It not only affects whether the child will get sick now, but also lays the foundation for lifelong health.

I have met many parents as a child care guide in the community, and they always feel that "all you need to do to raise a baby is to be well fed and clothed without falling." I once followed up on a 4-year-old boy. When his grandma took care of him, he would always rush to feed him until he had enough for a bowl of braised pork. In winter, he was always afraid of being cold and had to dress three layers more than adults. Even the slides in the community were not allowed to play casually for fear of falling. As a result, the baby was not only 20% overweight, but also caught a cold and pneumonia when the season changed. Later, my parents resigned and took care of me for half a year. They changed their diet to a combination of meat and vegetables. They took me downstairs to run and jump for 40 minutes every day after dinner. She also dressed according to the thickness of adults. Now not only has the baby's weight returned to the standard line, but she also had two runny noses throughout the winter. The change is particularly obvious. This is the most direct impact of daily child care and feeding habits on physical health.

After talking about the most intuitive physical changes, we have to mention the psychological health that is being discussed a lot now. There is also a controversial topic here: Should we give children "deliberate frustration education" from an early age? There is a group of parents who believe that they have to practice "carrying" from an early age, not being able to hug them immediately when they cry, and deliberately delaying giving them the toys they want for a week, so that they can withstand the pressure when they grow up. ； Some child psychology researchers believe that the establishment of a child's sense of security before the age of 3 is the core. Deliberately created setbacks will keep the child's stress system in a long-term state of tension, making it more likely that children will develop anxiety and sensitivity problems when they grow up. I met a 6-year-old boy in the pediatric care department a while ago. His parents have strictly implemented "delayed gratification" since he was over 1 year old. He had to wait for 5 minutes before even asking for water. As a result, the baby now panics about everything he does. He is always afraid that he will not get what he wants. He always grabs toys when playing with children, making him feel much less safe than children of the same age.

In fact, many parents do not realize that the definition of health has long been more than "no disease and no pain". The World Health Organization has long included "good social adaptation" as a criterion for health evaluation. This is also inseparable from the way of parenting. A mother came to me for consultation before and said that her child always got into fights with classmates after entering elementary school. The teacher contacted the parents every day. After talking with her, she found out that the parents had told the child since she was a child, "If anyone touches you, you will hit him back. You must not suffer any loss." Usually when the child has minor conflicts with children in the community, the parents will rush to help the child to get an explanation. As time goes by, the child does not know how to get along with peers normally and cannot integrate into the group. In fact, this is also a health problem.

It’s quite interesting to say that parenting is like caring for the little roses on the balcony. Too much water will cause rotten roots, too little sun will cause them to grow leggy, and occasionally you have to blow the wind to practice your resistance. There is no universal formula. In the small daily routine of a meal, a communication, and a conflict resolution, you can slowly save a lifetime of health capital for your baby.