How to release emotions when you are under great psychological pressure

In fact, the most effective release is never to hold it in, nor to complain to everyone, but to find an outlet that suits your current emotional intensity and let out the "suffocation" stuck in your heart. You don't have to force yourself to turn from sadness to happiness immediately. You can win without being blocked and panicking.

Recently, I worked on a project for 21 consecutive days, and the plan that was revised to the fifth version was asked to be overturned and re-adjusted before it went online. When I left the office after get off work that day, the wind blew, and my nose felt sore. I didn’t carry it home to catch up on the work, nor did I drag my friends to scold the boss for half an hour. I just went to the 24-hour office downstairs at home. When I was in the supermarket, I pinched the idle bubble wrap that was placed in the express area for ten minutes until it made a crackling sound. The aunt doing the shopping next to me laughed at me. I was not embarrassed. After pinching it, I took a bottle of iced salt soda and wandered home. By the time I went upstairs, most of the unknown fire stuck in my chest had dissipated.

Nowadays, the opinions on emotional release on the Internet are actually quite polar. On the one hand, they talk about "scientific adjustment", which forces people to get up and run three kilometers and write a mindfulness diary when they are stressed. They are already tired and have to do these "correct but laborious" things. Instead, they add a layer of frustration of "I can't even regulate my emotions well."； The other side advocates "complete catharsis". When you have an emotional breakdown, you go to KTV and howl until you are hoarse, drink until you break the music, or ask your friends to talk about the troubles over and over again three times. In fact, most of the time, the more you review the bad things, the higher the emotional concentration. When you wake up the next day, you will think about the nonsense you said the day before, which will add an extra layer of embarrassment.

There really is no standard answer, you can do whatever you want at the moment, as long as you don't hurt yourself and don't disturb others. If you are so tired that you don’t even want to talk, just find something mechanical to do that doesn’t use your brain. When a friend of mine who is doing auditing is stressed, he goes home and shines his shoes. He cleans the seams on the soles of more than a dozen pairs of shoes at home. After scrubbing, he washes his hands, and the mess in his heart is almost gone. ； If you have a bunch of words in your heart that you don’t want to say out loud, you don’t have to find a living person to use as an emotional trash can. You can open the memo on your phone and type whatever comes to your mind, then delete it if it fills the screen. Or you can take a detour from get off work and go to the park to chant to a tree for ten minutes and then leave. You don’t have to wait for someone to give you advice or make you happy.

My friends who work in the psychology industry have talked to me before and said that people always think that "releasing emotions" requires a sense of ritual and seeing a clear "I'm fine" result. In fact, this is not the case at all. Emotions are essentially flowing energy. Don't block it, just give it a small opening to let it flow out. It doesn't matter if you squeeze bubble wrap for ten minutes, tear half an old magazine, or even stand on the balcony and blow in the wind for five minutes in a daze. As long as you don't force yourself to "get better immediately", the energy will dissipate much faster than you think.

A while ago, I saw a little girl saying that when she was stressed, she would go to the vegetable market near her home. She would see the dishes neatly arranged by the stall owners and listen to their bargaining. After shopping for 20 minutes, she could carry a watermelon home, and her worries would disappear. You see, there is no right or wrong method. The one that makes you comfortable is the best.