Psychological counseling course

For the 90% of ordinary people who just want to solve their own emotional internal conflicts and improve their intimate/social relationships, choosing a reliable introductory psychological counseling course is a self-help tool that is three times more cost-effective than hiring an expensive counselor for long-term counseling; for newcomers who want to become a professional counselor, a basic science course worth one to two thousand yuan is the most trial-and-error cost you should spend before you spend hundreds of thousands to sign up for a "job-package training class", and it can help you filter out 90% of the false fires in the industry.

Last year I met a girl who worked as a user operator on the Internet. She hid in her car and cried after get off work every day for half a year. She either felt that her boss PUA was because she was incompetent, or that her boyfriend didn't reply to messages because he didn't love her. She was already moderately anxious when she went to the hospital for a checkup. The doctor suggested prescribing medication. She was afraid of side effects, so she signed up for a CBT-oriented emotional management class worth more than 900 yuan with the mentality of giving it a try. It was only when she was doing the "automated negative thinking" exercise in the third class that she realized that she had been taught by her parents since she was a child that "you are not good enough to be loved" and had already formed a conditioned reflex. Later, she practiced the thinking breakdown chart for two months. When I saw her last month, she had already quit a new job with a 40% salary increase. When she quarreled with her boyfriend, she would not hold it in her heart and just say directly, "The tone you just spoke made me uncomfortable, and I want you to apologize to me."

Of course, many people complain, saying that ordinary people who learn psychological counseling are just joining in the fun, learning the words "original family" and "pleasant personality" and labeling people everywhere. A few days ago, a netizen told me that her roommate took three half-baked classes and said to her every day, "You have obsessive-compulsive disorder because you love to be clean, and you have Oedipus complex when you quarrel with your mother." It was annoying to death. This situation is really not a problem with the course. It's because you chose a rubbish course that only piles up concepts and doesn't teach a sense of boundaries. You must know that the first class of a formal psychological counseling class will emphasize repeatedly: Do not analyze people around you casually. This is the most basic ethics of a counselor.

The courses on the market now vary greatly in orientation. There is no "best", only suitable ones. For example, if you like to dig out the root causes and are able to slowly sort out your childhood experiences, choosing a class with a psychoanalytic orientation will feel particularly healing; if you are impatient and want to quickly solve the current problem of always being angry and internally consumed, then choosing a class with a CBT orientation will be the most practical. Each class has tools that can be used directly; if you always feel that you are not good enough and are always competing with yourself, classes with a personal orientation will be particularly comfortable. The teacher will not hold on to your "problems", but will only teach you how to accept yourself as you are. I once had a friend who wanted to take a postgraduate entrance examination to study psychology. At first, he studied psychoanalysis with a professor at school, but he always found it too obscure and almost gave up. Later, when he came into contact with CBT practical classes, he discovered that he preferred the method of solving specific problems. Now he is working as a case assistant for adolescents with emotional disorders.

The easiest pitfall for many newcomers who want to join the industry is that they are deceived by the advertisement of "obtaining the certificate in 3 months and earning 20,000 yuan a month" at the beginning. It is really unnecessary to spend tens of thousands to apply for a job. First spend one or two thousand to sign up for an introductory course at a formal institution, and then follow it for two or three months of practical exercises. Try to see if you can listen to the client talk about the experience of domestic violence for three hours without judging or making random suggestions. After listening, you can still catch the other person's emotions. Can you accept that after taking the case, you have to spend an hour or two doing self-relief, otherwise you will find that you can't stand the emotional exhaustion after spending the money, and it will be wasted. And to be honest, the country has long since canceled the qualification certificate for psychological counselors. Anyone who says they "get a nationally recognized certificate" is just cutting leeks. This must be kept in mind.

I have seen even more outrageous things before when I was helping a friend to screen classes, such as "Learn hypnotherapy in 7 days and make a million a year", and also teach you how to use psychology to control your husband's heart. In essence, psychology is treated as a tool of metaphysics or emotional manipulation, and has nothing to do with formal psychological counseling courses. Reliable courses will pour cold water on you first: psychological counseling is not a panacea, it cannot solve all problems, and it cannot make you rich quickly. Even after you learn it, you will find that it is more important for you to accept many problems than to change them.

In fact, to put it bluntly, the psychological counseling course is essentially a skill course similar to cooking and driving. You can learn to make soup for yourself and walk around, which is completely sufficient. There is no need to get a chef certificate or a racing certificate before you dare to use it. If after taking the class you feel more and more enlightened, less internally conflicted, and more comfortable getting along with the people around you, then this class is worth it; if after taking the class you feel that everything is wrong with you, and you are looking at your own and other people's "psychological problems" every day to make mistakes, then stop quickly. It's not you who have a problem, it's the class itself.