self healing course

For ordinary people who have not been diagnosed with pathological mental illness and are troubled by long-term emotional internal conflict, relationship troubles, and meaninglessness, self-healing courses that match their own needs and are offered by formally qualified practitioners are indeed useful. However, it is neither a panacea that can solve all life problems, nor is it an IQ tax that harvests anxiety. It is essentially an "emotional instruction manual" that helps you systematically sort out your emotions and master adjustment methods.

The first time I took a self-healing class was in 2021. At that time, I was working on a large cross-department project. I worked overtime until 11 o'clock every day for three consecutive months, and had to take the blame for other departments from time to time. I would often cry while staring out the window while sitting on the subway after get off work. I watched a short video and found a "7-day farewell to internal friction training camp" for 99 yuan. I paid for it as soon as my brain got hot. As a result, after seven days, the content of each day was either copying inspirational quotes or forcing me to write down three things I was grateful for that day. I had just paid a 200,000 yuan fine for someone that day, and I really couldn’t write anything to be grateful for. The teaching assistant also messaged me privately and said, "You must learn to look inward and stop blaming the outside world." I was so angry that I quit the group. At that time, I also thought, isn't this thing an IQ tax?

It wasn't until later that I went to psychological counseling because of persistent insomnia. The counselor recommended a long-term self-healing course based on CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) to me. I signed up half-heartedly, only to realize that the problem I had encountered before was not the problem of the course at all, but that I didn't choose the right one.

The mainstream self-healing courses on the market now generally go in several directions, and the reviews vary greatly. The least controversial content is based on CBT. The core is to teach you to dismantle tangled emotions and distinguish "facts" from "ideas." For example, if you are criticized by your leader, your first reaction is "I can't do anything well, and I will be fired sooner or later." The class will teach you evidence one by one: Is there something wrong in some aspect of this matter, or have you done a mess in all your work? Didn’t you win an award for the project you worked on last time? This method is supported by a large amount of clinical evidence and rarely goes astray. Then there are the mindfulness courses, which have become very popular in recent years and have polarized reviews. I have a friend who works as a designer for Party A. She was overwhelmed by the changing needs of clients every day. She signed up for a 10-minute mindfulness class every day and followed it for 3 months. Now that she has changed the draft to the point where her blood pressure is high, she can calm down by doing a 3-minute breathing scan. She feels it is very worthwhile. ； However, some netizens complained that the mindfulness class they enrolled in requires you to "accept everything" every day, even if you are squeezed by the company or abused by your family. The essence is to teach you to be a soft persimmon, which will cause internal injuries. This is actually true - the core of mindfulness is awareness without judgment, not bottom-line concessions. Many wild courses have distorted the core.

There is also a class that focuses on expressive art therapy and the direction of body, mind and soul, which is even more controversial. Formal courses of this kind will combine dance therapy, painting therapy, and natural healing. They will not teach you big ideas, but will help you vent your emotions through movements, creations, and contact with nature. I took a one-day natural healing class last year, where I went to a country park to pick up leaves to deal with my emotional state. I was fighting the black and gray clouds, but in the middle of the fight, I suddenly remembered that I had just drank a particularly delicious sweet-scented osmanthus ice brew the day before. I picked up two yellow ginkgo leaves and made a small sun next to it. At that moment, I suddenly relaxed - I had assumed that my recent life was all bad things, but in fact, there are also small pieces worth being happy. But if you encounter someone who keeps talking about "family karma" and "past life karma" and often asks you to pay tens of thousands of dollars to take "advanced classes", run away quickly. That's not healing, it's a scam.

Many people ask me how to choose courses. In fact, there are not so many complicated criteria. First of all, don’t believe those hyped propaganda, such as “7 days to cure depression” and “improving wealth after taking courses.” Any effects other than mood regulation are basically for cutting leeks. Then check the qualifications of the speaker first. Does he have the qualifications of a registered psychologist, or does he have a system training background in a related profession? The kind who can’t even show any formal training experience and just says, “I healed myself, so I’m here to teach you.” Choose carefully. After all, you don’t want to use your emotions as someone else’s guinea pig, right? Oh, by the way, don’t follow the trend. If you have a character that can’t sit still, and others say that mindfulness is useful, then go and report it. Sitting for 10 minutes every day and counting your breaths is pure torture for you. It is better to find a therapy class that makes you move, even if it teaches you to play drums to vent. Only the ones that suit you will be useful.

One more thing must be made clear. If you have been diagnosed with pathological mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety in the hospital, don’t expect to rely on self-healing classes to cure the disease. First, take medicine and receive formal psychological consultation as directed by the doctor. Self-healing classes can at best be used as a supplement, and don’t put the cart before the horse.

To be honest, I have met so many people who took the class and found it useful in the end, but none of them regarded the class as a life-saving straw. This thing is like a recipe you buy when you learn to cook. You can't expect to make a Manchu Banquet just by looking at the recipe. You have to follow the above method and try it yourself. If you feel it doesn't work, just change the recipe, and slowly you can find the taste that suits you best. There is no standard answer to self-healing. The class just gives you a tool. What can finally pull you out of the emotional quagmire is your own willingness to reach out.