What is the psychological origin of extramarital affairs?

　　First of all, although society is more tolerant of men's sexual deviance than women, moral values ​​are still the main criterion for evaluating personal character. Even in Western developed countries with highly open sexual concepts, private lives still affect the careers and futures of celebrities.
　　
　　Society is more tolerant of men’s sexual deviance than women
　　
　　Moreover, men always value their social role and career value more. Extramarital affairs are often just a romantic episode in their colorful lives. If they can have the best of both worlds and complement each other, they naturally hope to have their cake and eat it too, and do not want to swim out of this intoxicating but dangerous whirlpool. However, once there is a conflict with reputation or career, they often weigh the pros and cons and retreat bravely, reluctantly giving up love. There are few infatuated men who sacrifice their reputations as good husbands and good fathers for their lovers, or even face charges of violating family morals and even destroy their bright future. Secondly, although men’s sexual values ​​tend to be pluralistic, open and fraternal, they are often more rational and realistic than women when making decisive choices.
　　
　　Secondly, although men’s sexual values ​​tend to be pluralistic, open and fraternal, they are often more rational and realistic than women when making decisive choices.
　　
　　They yearn for a romantic and exciting extramarital affair, but find it harder to give up a down-to-earth, simple intramarital affair. Household flowers may not be as beautiful and mellow as wild flowers, but they are still warm and elegant, and are often more attractive and useful. Although lovers can bring them an intoxicating sense of freshness, this kind of romantic love is refreshing, but after all it is too insecure. Moreover, when married women taste the forbidden fruit, most of them do not have the expected goal of marrying their lover. Therefore, extramarital affairs often just add some happiness and relaxation to their overloaded and tense social roles. nerve , just add some spices and embellishments to their standardized boring and monotonous life. Once faced with the choice of one or the other, most of them would rather give up this desperate romantic love and return to the secular and peaceful reality.
　　
　　Thirdly, because men may not stray into the restricted area only when their marriage is in crisis, many of them just have poor self-control and make impulsive mistakes. Therefore, most of them are only "emotional" but not "tempted" by their extramarital lovers, and they are less devoted to their feelings.
　　
　　Moreover, in real life, there are far more competent wives than husbands. Most married women do not lack basic physical and psychological satisfaction in the family, nor do they lack sweetness and happiness. When they get hot-headed with their lovers or make a promise to "divorce their wives" out of helplessness, when they return home and face the reality, they often know that they are wrong because their wives are qualified for the family role, and they hesitate to speak.
　　
　　In addition, once the incident comes to light, the wife often targets the third party and forgives the husband, and even tries to influence the husband with double tenderness. This makes the husband feel ashamed, guilty, and even repent and "abandon the new and fall in love with the old." Among them, there are also some husbands who are incompatible with their wives, but because their wives usually work hard as a good housekeeper and are not at fault, or their wives have made sacrifices for themselves, but now their status has changed, they cannot bear to hurt their weaker first wives, or they do not have the courage to break out of the marriage wall due to normative pressure.