Classic sentences for self-healing

There is no "classic self-healing sentence" that is universally applicable - all sentences that can really help you are essentially "exclusive antidotes" that just match your current emotional gap and are of the same frequency as your past experiences. If others find it useless, the moment it hits you is your "classic".

I happened to come across an interesting example when I was sorting out the records of psychological counseling cases a while ago: Xiao Zhou, a girl who came to me for consultation last year, had just been laid off by her company and broke up with her boyfriend of five years. During that time, her circle of friends was full of comforting words from relatives and friends, such as "It's hard to pass," and "You are so good, you will definitely get better." She was annoyed when she saw it, and every word he said was forcing her to "get better quickly," which was like another kind of pressure. Until she was browsing a short video one day and saw a blogger squatting on the roadside eating instant noodles and casually said, "You don't have to force yourself to climb out now, it's okay to squat in the pit and feel for rocks for a while." She cried while holding her phone for half an hour. With this sentence, she stayed at home for three days, drank porridge and watched old cartoons. After she recovered, she slowly submitted her resume and looked for a new job.

Regarding the role of healing sentences, different schools of psychology actually have quite different views. Colleagues who work in the cognitive behavioral school will feel that the core function of healing sentences is to correct your unreasonable core beliefs: For example, if you are always stuck in the internal friction of "I must satisfy everyone", then "It is normal to be disliked, and you do not need to be responsible for other people's emotions" is your symptomatic prescription. It is essentially a sentence that is easy to remember and helps you to carve into your mind the cognitive logic that the counselor has repeatedly stressed to you. Teachers who engage in existential therapy do not agree with this statement. They believe that healing sentences do not need to have any "reason" at all, as long as they can help you confirm your current feelings - I have seen several clients who were so sad that they couldn't breathe. , just repeat silently "Today's wind is very soft" and "The osmanthus downstairs is very fragrant". These words have no practical effect at all, but they can pull you out of the tossing emotional whirlpool for a second and confirm that you are still alive. This is enough.

I used to save a photo album full of "healing quotes", including quotes from famous people and verses from eminent monks. The year before last, when I was busy with projects and falling out of love, and my face was covered in acne, I read it over and over again three times and didn't feel anything at all. On the contrary, one morning I went downstairs to buy soy milk. When the breakfast aunt handed me the cup, she casually said, "My little girl's face has turned yellow. Drink more hot drinks. Even if the sky is falling, you have to eat breakfast first." I was standing in the wind with the hot soy milk, and suddenly my nose became sore. Later, I wrote this sentence down in the top column of the memo on my phone, and I would take a look at it every time I couldn’t stand it any longer. It was more useful than any collection of famous quotes.

Many people also think that so-called "healing sentences" are useless chicken soup for the soul, and this is actually true. If you owe 100,000 yuan in foreign debt, you will definitely not be able to afford it just by chanting "Everything will be fine" to the wall. If you have three unmodified plans piled up in your hand, even if you recite "Let yourself go" a hundred times, the deadline you should pay will not be pushed back - but the ten seconds you recite this sentence can make your clenched fists loosen by half a minute, prevent you from taking another step on the edge of collapse, and allow you to finish the half-bowl of rice at the moment. It has completed the task. Healing is never about solving all your problems for you, it is just about giving you a little more strength to get through it.

I had tea with a mindfulness teacher a while ago. He said that when he was so anxious that he couldn't sleep, he wouldn't think about any big ideas at all, so he would repeat seven words repeatedly: "My feet are on the ground." Just these seven words, no beginning or end, and others would find it incomprehensible when he said them. But every time he read them a few times, he could get rid of the thoughts that were racing in his mind: "What should I do if this project fails?" and "I still haven't made up enough for next month's rent." He felt the soles of his feet touching the weight of the mattress, and slowly fell asleep.

There is really no need to search for the "top ten classic self-healing sentences", and there is no need to follow the trend and copy other people's words that are regarded as gods in a notebook. When you work overtime until three o'clock and change your plan to the point of tears, the phrase that makes you suddenly relax is "The worst thing is that you will be scolded tomorrow, sleep first and then talk about it" is a classic ； When you are squatting on the roadside and crying, a stranger hands you a piece of paper and says, "This will all pass." This is a classic. ； Even if you say to yourself, "Today's milk tea is delicious" or "The cat downstairs rubbed me today", as long as it can help you breathe more in difficult days, then it is the best healing sentence for you.